this is inspired by my question for the vlog in the previous post. now the answer to the question "what am i looking for?" the answer is nothing, really. i am not looking for anyone in particular at the moment. i admit there are times that i wish i had a boyfriend but then there are the times that i am glad that i DON'T have one. and trust, those times outweigh the times that i wish i did. lol.
seriously! it feels good not having to check in with someone every minute of the day. but damn does it suck not having someone to wake up next to in the morning. the other side of the bed gets cold. so so cold. if you think about it..you don't have to have a boyfriend for that. on the other hand, i would like to wake up to the same face everytime and when i want to, lol. and companionship. i get tired of hanging with people who are just friends. i would like to hang with someone that i'm feeling on more than a friendship level. i like dates and fun, cutesy shit. so i just contradicted myself. i AM looking for SOME THINGS.
what am i looking for?! this is funny. "searchin" by roy ayers just popped up on my itunes.. as the song says, "you see my friend, i need someone who feels and needs the same as I..." naturally right? so with that being said. i suppose i am looking for an "arrangement." that's what i will call it; not relationship but arrangement. i am not "searching" for this "arrangement" so if it happens to present itself, i might oblige.
in this aforementioned "arrangement," i would need consistency. consistency is so so important to me. now consistency is not to be confused with persistency& smothering. consistency simply means we communicate on a daily basis ; simple. it's just routine. now thats technically not checking in or anything of the sort...it's acknowledgement to my existence and your feelings towards me. call me once or twice a day. make me not feel like a damn jumpoff. return my text messages and phone calls. you can refer back to this post: "why are guys.." to see my exact feelings about that. remember that guy? yuck! anyways... i know tons of guys juggle women. i get it. look at the statistics, but at least have your game tight enough that each girl that you talk to feels like she's the only one. it can be done.
which leads me to HONESTY. if you ask me something; it is 100% truth; i expect for him to be the same with me. i mean its this one guy that's trying really hard to talk to me right now, he has a crazy ass baby mama that he used to live with. (amongst other things) she is random and pops up with craziness at any given moment. i appreciate that he told me that. therefore, i know that if i ever kick it with dude and/or even take him seriously, i might have to fight my way up out his house if she busts up in there. lmao. jk. but really. honesty is cool.
in conclusion, arrangements that equal honesty & consistency. work with the kid. i don't know what i'll be into months from now; but for now...i will take this arrangement thing. if it presents itself. if not, i am mackin' and hangin'. lol. sorry i've seen "the wood" too many times. ;)